How Guys Screw Up First Dates
...OR... The One Thing NEVER To
Do With A Woman
I get a lot of guys who write in
to ask me how to behave around
women. Many of those questions
focus on the first meeting or
the first date. I thought I'd
devote one entire newsletter to
a concept that I feel is VITAL
to understand if you're
wondering how to behave around a
woman you've just met.
A MISTAKE ALMOST EVERY GUY MAKES
I've noticed a KEY difference
between the way men and women
act when they meet a “potential
mate”.
Women usually act in a way that
can be characterized like this:
“You're interesting to me. I'd
like to get to know you better,
and we can see where this goes.”
Men usually act in a way that
can be characterized like this:
“I am so interested in you that
I'm nervous. In fact, I'm
already thinking of you as a
potential girlfriend or wife...
or at least a one-night stand.”
In other words, women are
usually casual and laid-back
when they're first meeting a
guy...But GUYS tend to act like
every girl is a POTENTIAL
WIFE.As you can imagine, this
creates a lot of tension and
pressure.And I'm not talking
about the GOOD kind, either.I'm
talking about the kind that
makes men shiver and shake with
nervousness, and women feel
uncomfortable because the MAN is
acting uncomfortable.I KNOW that
you can relate to this in some
way.
THE ANSWER
The simple solution to this
is...
DON'T DO IT.
If you start acting all freakish
and nervous when you're talking
to a woman, you're probably
going to screw things up before
they've even had a chance to get
started. Treating a woman that
you've just met as if she very
well could be the love of your
life is something you should
NEVER do. Instead, take a very
different approach. My favorite
is to ASSUME that every woman
has SOMETHING that's going to
annoy me, bother me, or SCREW UP
HER CHANCES with me. The MAIN
reason that I do this...
SURPRISE...
IS THAT IT'S TRUE!
Duh.
The fact is that MOST women are
NOT compatible “long term” with
most men. In other words, there
if you do get into a long-term
relationship with a particular
woman, the chances are that
she's going to have things about
her that you don't like. One of
my favorite Cocky & Funny themes
to follow is “You're screwing up
your chances with me”. Let's say
I'm walking down the street with
a girl to have a cup of tea.
Let's assume that she and I just
met the night before, I got her
number, and now we're walking
from my place to tea. On the way
in the door to the coffee shop,
she trips over the doorway. I
might look at her, shake my head
in an “overly dramatic fake
annoyed” way, and say “This
relationship just isn't going to
work”. Then, let's say fifteen
minutes later she spills her tea
on the table and herself. I'll
shake my head again and say
“What did I tell you about this
kind of behavior?”. In other
words, I'm communicating the
very OPPOSITE of “You're a
potential wife”. I'm saying “I'm
so comfortable around you that I
can even make fun of you without
caring what you think of me”.
Does this sound a little crazy?
Good. It should. But trust me.
If you spend a couple of hours
having regular, normal
conversation... being Cocky &
Funny, enjoying yourself, NOT
trying to impress her, and
generally demonstrating that you
could care less how things turn
out, you'll be FAR more likely
to take things further than if
you act as if she might be the
love of your life and you wind
up acting so nervous, stilted,
and DUMB that she runs away. So
here it is again... one thing
that most guys who are
unsuccessful with women do that
screws things up...
One thing to AVOID:
DON'T TREAT A WOMAN YOU'VE JUST
MET AS IF SHE'S A POTENTIAL
FUTURE WIFE OR GIRLFRIEND.
Instead, lean back. Be cool.
Make jokes about her screwing up
her chances with you. Tell her
that she's a nice friend. Assume
that she has qualities that are
going to annoy you, then point
them out (in a Cocky & Funny
way, of course). Don't lose your
composure. It can be fatal if
you do.
Another note:
Most guys don't “get” women.
And, unfortunately, most guys
look for tricks and “pick up
lines” when it comes time to
LEARN how to meet women. They
don't realize that all the
tricks in the world aren't going
to help them if they don't
UNDERSTAND what's “going on”.
That's where my eBook comes
in... In it, I teach everything
from the ground up on how to
take things all the way from
beginning to end... from the
first meeting through the first
date... all the way to the
bedroom, and beyond. You'll
learn how to overcome your
limiting beliefs about women...
how to eliminate your fears of
talking to women... how to make
women feel ATTRACTION for you,
even if you don't have money or
looks, etc. In other words, it's
a complete system.
You'll learn everything you need
to know in order to start
meeting and dating more women
IMMEDIATELY.
By David DeAngelo |
