I've learned a secret to impressing women that I'm going to share
with you in this newsletter. It's a secret that probably not 1 in
1,000 men knows or will ever figure out on his own. The REASON that
most men will never figure out this particular secret is that it's
TOO OBVIOUS. Let me explain... I personally think that most men feel
a very powerful desire to IMPRESS women. If you watch the way a man
behaves when he's talking to a woman he's just met or a woman that
he's on a first date with, you can SEE IT. Maybe you've been there
yourself. I know I have. Many, many times, in fact.
The feeling
that you need to impress a woman usually comes along with another
feeling: DON'T SCREW THIS UP.
Here are some of the signs that a guy is feeling the need to
“impress” the woman that he's talking to:
1) He
tries to only say “cool” things, or things that will “impress” the
woman.
2) He
acts nervous and stilted during the conversation... sometimes coming
across as “formal”.
3) He
tries to figure out what the woman wants to hear.
4) If
he says something that the woman doesn't like, he “back-pedals” and
tries to change what he said to suit the woman.
5) He
doesn't say anything “risky”, doesn't tease the woman, and doesn't
do anything to upset her.
...in other words, when a guy is talking to a woman that he
“likes”, he's usually on his “best behavior”, and he's trying to
“put his best foot forward”. To say it again, MEN FEEL A POWERFUL
DRIVE TO IMPRESS THE WOMAN THAT THEY “LIKE”. And this drive to
impress often makes them act UNNATURAL. There's your first hint, in
fact...
THE SECRET
Remember at the beginning when I told you that I was going to
share a secret with you about how to impress women that not 1 in
1,000 men will figure out on their own?
Well, here it is:
STOP TRYING.
If you will just STOP TRYING to impress women, and do the things
I'm teaching you instead, women will NATURALLY be “impressed” by
you.
TRYING TO IMPRESS A WOMAN DOESN'T IMPRESS HER.
So let's break this down...
WHY IMPRESSING WOMEN IS THE WRONG ROAD
What's wrong with trying to “impress” women, anyway?
To start with, EVERYTHING. When you intentionally try to impress
a woman, you send the following messages on a “subtle” level:
1) I
don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I will try to “impress”
you instead.
2)
I'm not comfortable enough around women to just act normal.
3) I
don't have a lot of experience with attractive women.
4)
I'm insecure.
5) I
don't know how to make women feel comfortable with me.
Ouch. But it's the truth. Women can TELL INSTANTLY when you're
“trying”. The conversation doesn't feel “normal”, your body language
is strange, and you can't seem to have a regular conversation. Now
of course, I've just described the way that about 99.9999% of men
act when they're first talking to a woman that they “like”. Are you
ready for a profound insight?
Here goes... MOST MEN DO THIS WITH MOST ATTRACTIVE WOMEN MOST OF
THE TIME. IN OTHER WORDS, IT'S OLD NEWS. IT'S BORING. IT'S
PREDICTABLE. AND IT DOES NOT IMPRESS AT ALL. The bottom line is that
trying to impress a woman usually has the OPPOSITE effect. It not
only makes you look like a nervous guy who can't make normal
conversation... it also bores the hell out of women.
WHAT TO DO INSTEAD
OK, so you're out having a cup of tea with a beautiful woman you
just met a few days before... She asks you what you do for a living.
Should you answer with:
1)
“Well, I'm an engineer for a software company that makes
sophisticated vector widget plotting algorithms. I've been with them
for three years, and I'm about to be promoted to ALGORITHM MANAGER.”
2) “I
do stunt work. Have you ever seen it in a movie when a hot actor has
to reveal his naked ass? That's my job.”
...?
Well, it all depends on what your outcome is. If you want to try
and IMPRESS the girl with your cool high-tech job, then #1 will work
just fine. Unfortunately, it won't impress her at all, and it will
make you sound like a jackass who is trying to sound cool. If you
want to ACTUALLY impress her, try #2.
Most men don't have the BALLS to say something like this when a
woman asks a “serious” question like “What do you do?”. If you
REALLY want to make a long-lasting impression, KEEP THE HUMOR GOING.
She'll say “No, really... what do you do?”. Answer with: “No,
really. Haven't you ever seen it when an actor needs a stunt ass? I
mean hey... someone's got to do it”. Now, I can't possibly go into
all the reasons why it's a HUGE MISTAKE to try to impress a woman,
or to feel like everything you say should be “impressive”. There are
MANY reasons for this. MORE IMPORTANTLY, there are a few things you
can do that will INSTANTLY impress a woman... and I mean REALLY
impress her.
But these things aren't OBVIOUS. The most IMPORTANT thing you can
do to IMPRESS a woman is make her feel a powerful emotional
ATTRACTION for you. This feeling will stay with her long after you
have left and gone home. And it's the one thing that will make women
pursue YOU... and try to impress YOU. What's the best way to do
this?
1)
Stop trying to IMPRESS women. Stop now.
2) Go
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