How To Get A
Woman's Phone Number And Email Address Within Three
Minutes Of Meeting Her
Let me start off by telling you something
interesting:
I've personally stopped focusing on just getting
phone numbers. I've found that EMAIL addresses are
far better (I still get the phone number too, of
course).
Let me explain.
I perfected the art of getting phone numbers a
couple of years ago. If a woman is single, I can
walk up to her and get her number in about a minute
or two (if I'm in a hurry). I found out later, after
working like a mad scientist on this that GETTING
PHONE NUMBERS ALONE DOESN'T EQUAL SUCCESS. You see,
women have many different reasons for giving out
their phone numbers. Some love the attention of
having a lot of men call them. Some like to turn
guys down. Some are actually interested. But the
universal feedback that I get from men, and in my
personal experience, women act different on the
phone than they do in person. When you call a woman
for the first time, she'll often start acting stand
offish or even worse, just plain rude. It's almost
like she's a different person than the one you met.
I've found that getting an EMAIL address is not only
easier, but it gets more positive responses later
on. It's almost as if women appreciate it that
you've taken the time to think about what you're
going to say when you write an email to them, and
they think of you more like someone they know. The
other benefit of email is that it can be written and
answered anytime. If you call, you have to actually
reach them. But an email can be answered anytime.
And I've found that emails are answered FAR more
often than voicemail messages.
HERE'S THE HOW TO:
After I've talked to a woman for about 3 or 4
minutes, I'll often say something like “Well, it was
nice meeting you. I'm going to get back to my
friends.” They usually don't know what to do, as
they're used to guys clinging to them. Most of the
time, they say “It was nice meeting you too...”
Then, just as I'm turning to walk away, and we kind
of disconnect, I turn back and say “HEY! Do you have
email?”
The “HEY!” is a bit surprising, and “Do you have
email” is non-threatening. In fact, I'm technically
asking her if she HAS email, not if she'll GIVE IT
TO ME.
If she says “yes,” I take out a pen and paper and
say “Great, write it down for me” and I have her
write it down. (This is great, as I just treat the
'yes' that they give me as a yes to get it from them
as well. And they've almost ALL gone along with it
so far) Then AS SHE'S IN THE MIDDLE OF WRITING, I
say “Write your number down there too.”
When you ask for email, it's very low risk for a
woman, so she'll think “Fine, I'll do that.” Most
women will give out an email address without
thinking about it, because they know that they can
choose later to just not answer.
The magic of asking them to write their phone number
down WHILE they're in the middle of writing down
their email is all about the psychology of human
behavior.
She's already mentally said “OK, I'll give you my
email address”... and she's in the middle of writing
it down. When you say “And just write your number
down there too” it's only NATURAL to just write it.
In other words, it's a MUCH smaller step than giving
out the phone number all by itself. It took me a
LONG time to figure out this simple move, but it
works like magic! You will have women writing their
phone numbers down without even thinking twice.
Here's a great add-on to make sure you're getting a
real phone number and not a pager or voicemail:
As she's writing down her phone number I say “Is
this a number that you actually answer?” If she
looks at me and hesitates, or says that it's her
“voicemail or pager number,” then I say “Look, write
your real number down. It's going to be OK, I'll
only call you nine times a day...” They laugh and
usually give me their real number.
Now, if she answers my first question and says “No,
I don't have email” then I bust on them and say
“Well, do you have electricity?” This is a GREAT
opportunity to use humor.
Then I say “Well, OK then. I like email better, but
I'll take your regular phone number. It's so damn
hard to reach people on the phone these days.” Just
realize that all you have to do is ask. Like I said,
I've tried all kinds of things. And I've gotten
hundreds of phone numbers. And I use this exact
sequence every time I talk to a woman and I want to
get her phone number. I've gotten to the point where
I can often do this in a minute or two - no kidding!
Now that you know the sequence, write it down with
the words and the steps, and rehearse it in your
mind over and over until you know exactly what to
say for each step and each response.
Many guys have asked me “But what do I tell her as a
reason why I want her number or email?” I've never
had a woman ask me. If you ask, and they give it,
then she knows why you asked. If she doesn't give it
to you, then she also knew why you asked. Just
assume that this is the case. If you ask every time,
and you do it in a smooth, assuming, calm way,
you'll get a lot of emails and phone numbers.
Note: Carry a pen on you at all times. I prefer the
Fisher Space Pen (chrome) because it's small,
classy, and women love it!
By David DeAngelo
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